Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Coming Up Roses: Day 12 Sans Social Media

A woman extended a rose to a random passer-by. From behind my headphones devoid of music, I heard her kind voice ask, “would you like a rose…”

But before she could finish her question, the passer-by swerved away, shaking her head, mutely mouthing the word no, earbud cord dangling from her neck.

All-too-familiar with the many non-profit organizations that come to my campus to rally for support, signatures, and new members, I watched as another victim approached the flower lady, grateful I would not be the one caught in this donation trap.

“Would you like a rose to pass on to someone as a random act of kindness, today”, she asked the person.

And my headphones came out, and my voice sounded,  “Oh my god! I do! How neat! I love this! Do I donate funds or something? I mean, how does this work?”

I’d have donated a dollar or two had it been necessary. The simple idea of passing on a random act of kindness is just my cup of tea. Lucky for me, donations were refused.

It turned out that KIND snacks, a company that makes healthy, gluten-free treats with non-GMO products, was promoting  kindness. It was only when I asked what this was all about that I was I handed a flier with stickers reading #kindawesome for sticking on things that I was enthusiastic about  to share via Tweet or Instagram photos. Had I been on social media presently, I’d have #kindawesome’d all over the place!

I took my single red rose to pass on, and almost as soon as I looked up was soon irked by the greed I saw. Several people slowly walked down the center of campus with bouquets of single roses, chatting with friends, huge smiles on their faces. Wasn’t the point to share?

Moments later, I came to the center of campus and found oodles of flowers for the taking and approached another worker. “How many can we take” I asked.

“As many as the people you’d like to make happy today”, he said with a grin on his face.

And I proudly became one of those girls with a bouquet in my hand.

I gave a rose to the bookstore greeter who gave me a kind hello, and one to my friend who never buys herself flowers because they die. I gave a rose to the girl in class whose face lit up when I walked in with the buds, and one to a cashier at Burger King who commented on the beauty of the single stem in my hand.

I gave a rose to the resident staff in my apartment building who so regularly performs random acts of kindness for the students living here, and then I gave the last rose to myself because, although I had intended it for the peaceful homeless man who regularly sleeps at The Shrine Auditorium, I felt he deserved better than the wilted, droopy flower now only suitable for drying. (Besides, let’s face it, sometimes we need to be randomly kind to ourselves, too).

And do you know what? The whole day, I was so busy giving that I can’t recall having looked at my phone to text message someone out of boredom, or with the impulse of entertaining myself with Dragon Zumu, my one single guilty pleasure of a game that I play on my phone.

So as a solution to your issues, whether you are trying not to look so often at your favoritesocial media sites, or you just need a distraction from your troubles, simply give. Give a smile. Give space for someone to get over in traffic. Give an opened door to someone with their hands full. Give a compliment. 

Challenge yourself to look for just the right person to be the recipient of your giving, and you’ll be entertained your whole day long. 

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